Toms Interview im Februar 2019
Mit aXelle de Sade
Location: Paris, France
Tel.: Joignable au + 33 6 41 11 38 58 tous les jours de 10h à 19h
Vorwort: Das Interview hat Sven mit aXelle de Sade geführt!
Sven: How have you discovered your interest in Domination?
aXelle de Sade: Almost all human beings eventually incorporate BDSM practices into their sexual games without knowing it, without giving it a name, a label. Indeed, blindfolding your partner, shackling him or her, feeling like a bitch or as all-powerful, these are already components of BDSM and they naturally find their place in so-called vanilla sex... The decorum often associated, i. e. the costumes and sophisticated accessories are not necessary to practice BDSM. For example, right now I use office rubber bands a lot to torture my submissives. I like to repurpose objects from everyday life.
So, to answer your question, I don't remember a specific starting point in my practice. I associated my fantasies with BDSM a decade ago when I went to my first fetish party and started going to Paris-Munch meetings. Since then, I have been immersed in the exploration of creative sexuality in the broadest sense, that is, I look at the entire spectrum of the intimate.
Sven: How would you describe yourself?
aXelle de Sade: When I introduce myself, I often say that I have been dominant for generations, a way of saying that I was raised in a matriarchy and that my history has made me what I am today...
Like my illustrious ancestor, the Marquis*, I live in Paris precisely near Bastille in a beautiful apartment that I occasionally transform when my toy chest opens and the candles are lit. Thirty-something chameleon, I’m sometimes blonde, sometimes brunette with long or short hair, dressed in latex or fur, leather, zentai, kimono, tutu on point... But I'm not going to reveal to you here the full extent of my wardrobe.
As a political artist, I am known in other spheres under different names, on different days when I create or participate in events where creative sexualities are presented, taught, discussed, practiced...
As an activist for STRASS, the French sex workers union, I fight to work under better conditions for both my clients and myself.
*An irony of history, the Marquis de Sade was transferred on July 4, 1789 from the Bastille prison to the Charenton prison, 10 days before the French revolution.
Sven: For how long are you working as a professional Mistress? Where can slaves meet you nowadays?
aXelle de Sade: I have been practicing professional domination for 6 years. But I have existed in the small world of positive sex for about 10 years where I enjoy a certain reputation due to the quality and originality of the events I conceive.
I live in Paris, I am a real Parisian and my submissives can meet me there. I can also travel anywhere in the world as long as a first contact has been made in my lair. I have already visited Guadeloupe, Vienna or the Maldives accompanied by a sub.
Sven: What are the qualities a slave should have to serve you on a regular basis?
aXelle de Sade: The BDSM relationship is a dance of two, three, four... the impulse is given by the dominant, nevertheless, submission is not a passive posture. It’s quite the contrary.
During the first meeting, I explain to all my newbies (my new subjects) what I expect from them, which can be summarized in three points:
- To be alive, to express oneself, to play, to take postures, behaviours and vocabularies adapted to what the submissive wants to incarnate (dog, horse, patient, child, employee, cuckolded boyfriend, slut, whore, furniture...)
Indeed, being impassive, playing the “starfish” is an absolute no! This passivity gives me the impression of playing with a wall. I have no echo, no feedback of what is being played out in the other's psyche. My game is not energized and I tend to get bored very quickly, suffering from the inactivity of the submissive.
To be a good submissive is to connect with your mistress, so it is on the exchange that an intense BDSM relationship is built.
- Know your limits and respect them: even if together we explore all the corners of the subject's phantasmagoria, it is necessary for him to know how to say stop when you fall into disgrace or when pleasure is supplanted by a negative emotion.
- Ask for "spermission,” i.e. authorization before ejaculating during the session.
Sven: Do you allowed your slave to come during a session?
aXelle de Sade: Yes, often but not systematically, some submissives are not there for that.
Sven: Do you have a spezial fetish or a favourite practice?
aXelle de Sade: I have a wide range of practices. I like a lot, it depends on the moment, my inspiration, and the submissive, too. It is growing as I explore personally. For example, every year I participate in festivals like Erosphere all over Europe, I am constantly learning, developing and exploring new practices. Lately, I've had a lot of fun with forniphilia, the art of transforming a person into human furniture. Put like that, it sounds silly, but in fact it means being forced... letting go, waiting, rejoicing to feel on your skin a feeling of hot, cold, getting excited when you feel something brush your sex... I organized a course with a nurse to learn urethral catheterization, refine my enema practice or even cause physical stress with plaster strips. Finally, I have just been offered an anal hook and I have acquired a magnificent belt dildo and they have become my fetish objects of the moment.
Sven: What would the perfect slave be alike – how would he have to be?
aXelle de Sade: The perfect submissive is a chimera. Perfection is death, the search for an absolute mortal. When I take a submissive as a member, I always ask him the object of his research, his motivations. I can answer him positively if his request is based on Eros, i.e. creation, exploration, personal development and acceptance. If, on the contrary, I judge that his need enters the register of Thanatos, i.e. deadly, I decline the request.
Sven: What is absolutely impossible for you within a SM-session?
aXelle de Sade: I'm not crazy for Caviar. My orifices are not included in the service and do not form the basis of the relationship.
Sven: Is there a certain fantasy you never lived before?
aXelle de Sade: I have two unrealized fantasies in my head:
- I imagine being the proud owner of a sperm farm: one submissive per box, a bit like in artisanal agriculture, all on 4 legs, harnessed so that they are suspended. At the head of a beautiful team of dominatrixes, we spend every hour milking our livestock.
- My other wish is impossible to achieve today: an SM session with a submissive and five dominatrixes in a upper circle box of the Garnier Opera in Paris, on the first floor, where the other spectators cannot see what is happening, where there’s a curtain and a small sofa in the back, all in red velvet, there’s a mirror and the lights are dimmed. I would invite four of my domina friends and one submissive, without the latter being informed of my accomplices. The show begins and he begins to feel soft hands caressing him, scratching them gently. Then a scarf is tied around his head. After one or two operatic arias, he feels a bond knotting on his wrists and ankles. His pants are slowly untied, he feels a cold liquid settle on his sex... to be continued.....
Tom: This sounds great!!!... smile
Sven: Beside being a gorgeous Mistress what are you hobbies in life?
aXelle de Sade: I spend most of my free time campaigning for the recognition of the rights of sex workers in France, a quasi-abolitionist country. With the STRASS, I have set up a health insurance system for sex workers.
I still organize events dedicated to creative sexuality in Paris such as Erosphère or SubSpace, my latest creation, a live action SM role-play with 25 people in various scripted worlds.
Sven: Ich bedanke mich für das Interview